You and your kids are not isolated. You’re part of a broader world. That means that other people will influence your thinking and your kids’ thinking, over time. This can be frustrating. For instance, perhaps you and your child will come to a deep understanding about what you’re going through and what’s expected of them. Then one day at school, an older kid gets word of the divorce and says mean things to your child, causing him to go into a downward spiral and act out. This can lead to distrust and chaos.
Be prepared to get “knocked off the horse.” If/when something like this happens, acknowledge the rupture, and strive for empathy. Don’t try to fix things right away. Just acknowledge your kid’s feelings and needs, and go from there.
For instance, perhaps you could open a conversation along the following lines: “I heard that Ronnie in school said nasty things to you about the divorce at recess, and then I saw you knock the art off the wall in my studio. Are you feeling mad and confused about what’s been happening? Would you like to talk about it?”
By approaching your kids in this way — respectfully, and focused on needs and feelings — you’ll be more likely to elicit behavior that will lead to better outcomes.
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