Perhaps your daughter has been going through an Alabama divorce, and you noticed strange bruises on her arms and legs the last time you got together. Or maybe your child came home crying after a disconcerting encounter with his step-father.
You believe that MAYBE domestic violence occurred. What can you do?
Tragically, many people freeze. That is, they don’t do anything. Perhaps they’re humiliated by the allegations. Perhaps they feel like it’s “none of their business,” and so they refuse to get involved out of a sense of decorum. Perhaps they think the accuser may have been “hysterical” or “embellishing.” Perhaps they want to protect the potential perpetrator.
Domestic violence cases are complex because the allegations can be so subjective. In some cases, clear, concrete evidence demonstrates culpability one way or the other. But in many cases, the situation comes down to one person’s word against another person’s word.
Domestic violence events can also force us out of our comfortable “paradigms.” They can change the way we think about our loved ones. For instance, maybe you love your husband, despite all his flaws. So you don’t want to see him go to jail for striking you while drunk. Instead of doing something or saying something to the police, you stay quiet to protect him. It takes courage to break out of old ways of thinking about the person who hit you or your kids.
You need safe, reliable insight into your options, so that you can make better decisions. Call Board Certified Alabama family law attorney, Jennifer Rose, immediately, to get the compassionate, attentive help you need.
In the past several posts, we’ve been talking about domestic violence and its implications for Alabama divorce, child custody and other family law matters. But why do people commit domestic violence in the first place? Is it human nature to be violent towards one another? Has human society always been riven by violence? Will we ever, collectively, find a “cure” for the desire to hurt one another, physically and emotionally?
These are deep questions, and obviously this blog is way too short to address them effectively. Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, author of the bestselling book, Nonviolent Communication, suggests that violence is NOT innate to the human condition. Some pretty surprising anthropological research backs him up. For instance, in his book, Dr. Rosenberg describes a well-known native Polynesian tribe that is effectively free from violence and infighting, as we would understand those terms. And other anthropologists have catalogued similar kinds of encounters. In other words, even in the modern world, we can find evidence of human tribes and small cultures that do not have nearly the level of violence (domestic or otherwise) that we do.
These examples are diverse enough, both culturally and genetically, to suggest that something about the way we learn how to communicate is somehow “off.” That is: we are programmed to be more violent than our fundamental nature really is.
These philosophical and anthropological ideas notwithstanding, you have far more practical concerns. Whether you stand falsely accused of domestic violence, or someone hurt you or one of your children, contact attorney Jennifer Rose with the Rose Law Firm today for a free consultation.
In a recent post, we discussed the terrifying topic of domestic violence. Whether you are enmeshed in an Alabama divorce or custody battle, or you are struggling with a difficult relationship, perhaps your current or ex-partner has accused you of domestic violence.
Perhaps you got into a shouting match, and he or she embellished what you did or said. Perhaps you did engage in some physical action, but the accusations about what happened blow things way out of proportion.
You know that you need to do something to protect your reputation and freedom; otherwise, you could face diverse and negative consequences, including:
• Jail time and other legal penalties;
• Problems obtaining just and fair results in your divorce or child custody case;
• Public and private humiliation;
• Psychological trauma.
Domestic violence allegations often come down to highly personal accounts – so-called “he said, she said” testimony. It can be quite challenging even for objective, well-intentioned parties to separate truth from fiction.
The amount of time that elapses between the allegations and your response is critical. You want to minimize lag and respond in a way that’s compassionate, effective and swift.
Call a Board Certified family law attorney here at the Rose Law Group. Attorney Jennifer Rose is a specialist in these kinds of legal matters, and she can provide a confidential, thorough consultation to help you protect your rights.
Whether you are going through an Alabama divorce or a brutal child custody dispute, you believe that you might have experienced domestic violence.
Perhaps your fiancé slapped you in the middle of an argument, or maybe you suspect that your wife has been administering corporal punishment on your kids in secret.
Domestic violence charges are very serious, and the revelations can be quite embarrassing and scary to discuss. A victim may fear that, by going forward, he or she may risk getting hit again (or worse) in retaliation. Your safety – and the safety of your children and other vulnerable dependents – is priority number one.
If you are in danger, or if you suspect that you are in danger, call the police, and then call an experienced Alabama family law attorney immediately.
You may be hesitant to do so because, while you are scared and possibly humiliated, you also want to “protect” the assailant from having to go to jail and deal with the defense process.
That’s understandable, but if you have questions about the process — or if you are confused about your rights and potential options — please contact Board Certified Alabama family law attorney Jennifer Rose. She is an expert, and she can provide a totally confidential free consultation.